But then, he’s just so… So… Normal. On days like today, it seems there are no issues. Assuming constant bickering and arguing with your brother is normal, and I know it is, Big Boy was just your typical 8-year-old today.
He got out of bed, ate breakfast, played, dressed himself, and played until time to leave. He was happy he has already aced his spelling test on the first practice test, so we don’t have to study those again. No conduct marks for the day, even after having Dippin Dots at lunch. He has never been able to consume sugary snacks at school, then have a good day with no marks!
Ornery when I got to Nana’s house to pick them up, because he didn’t get his way. Normal. He got over it, read a book to his Nana, didn’t cause a fuss when she told him it was time to stop. Was mostly happy at home while I was cooking supper, and the arguing stopped when I asked him to dry some dishes. He told me about some bullying that happened at school, and told me how he handled the situation. He didn’t tackle the kid or yell at him or hit him, he tried to walk away, and he went and told the teacher when the kid wouldn’t leave him alone. He didn’t just hide and cry, either. Improvement! I told him it sounded like the kid was having a bad day, and sometimes it’s hard to be nice when something is wrong. I pointed out times it has been hard for him to behave when he has had Big Feelings about bad stuff, in a loving way, to help him understand this kid might have Big Feelings too. Empathy is important for kids to learn. Normal.
It’s terrible, but I feel like I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop. Just holding my breath for the conduct marks to begin again. He is growing up, he is learning to cope, he is still catching up and doing quite well for now.
I’m also trying not to dwell on it, and instead just enjoy the moment. BB is happy that he is improving. We are relieved to see progress. I know the saying is, “If Mama ain’t happy,” but truth be told, the behavior and mood of the children impacts the family, too.